Admittedly, I have no idea where to start because whenever I read all the parenting magazines, I skipped to the fun stuff like " Your Baby Can Crawl at 2 Months!" Now that we've hit the Oh-So-Renowned "Terrible Twos", I find myself trying my hardest to remember what they taught in my high school Child Development class...hmmmm... can't recall anything. Here are the methods I have tried, which do not seem to be working:
- ignore it
- TIME OUT
- withhold a desired object as punishment
- TIME OUT
- bribe against it
- explain the situation calmly
- TIME OUT
- explain the situation harshly
- TIME OUT
- Copycat her performance (yeah, this definitely doesn't work)
3 comments:
Sorry to say this out loud because it is SO Not politically correct:
(whisper)spanking(whisper). There just gets to be a point when your child needs to know who's boss. Then firmly put her in her bedroom, close the door, and cry where she can't hear you.
You really are a good mom. Don't stress too much. Love ya!
I've never been pregnant with a second child but Skye definitely tested boundaries and threw fits starting right before she turned two. The biggest thing was to just be consistent, every time, no matter where we were it was the same process. It took a little while to find what worked for her, we tried spanking, and it did nothing, but put Skye in time out in a corner and ignore her and that works for her. WE just established a time out spot everywhere we went, she would get one warning and then was in time out for two minutes, then we would talk about it and hug and go back to what we were doing. There were times that two minutes later we were doing the same thing all over again with time out, but now she gets time out means stop and she really is pretty good.
As for the crying when you leave, well Skye still does that, so I have no advice.
Just go with what feels right to you, you know her better then anyone else, and you will figure it out.
Good Luck.
I wish theree was a simple answer, however, there isn't. Most of motherhood seems trial and error, unfortunately. I echo the 2nd comment. Whatever you do, you have to be consistant. Consistancy goes a looooonnnnggggg way. A few things that I had to patinently learn with this (oh wait, I'm still trying to learn these) #1. These things come and GO in stages.
#2. Some things really don't matter (i.e. when I was trying to get Aleah to do something a certain way and she wouldn't, in the big realm of things, it really didn't matter.)
#3. And DON'T COMPARE! (yourself or your child) Don't think your child is a terror or that you're not like that "perfect mom", you know you think there is one. Comparing always sets you both up for failure. Your opinions of others are just that, opinions, not facts.
So with the girls, we make it obvious that what the are doing is not okay and put them in their room. It's different from a regular time out. (Nani, goes to her crib.) This doesn't keep them from throwing tantrums, it just teaches them it's not okay, which in turn will teach them not to react that way. Oh and sometimes, they need to be taught how to respond. If you tell a child what not to do, sometimes it doesn't mean anything because they don't know any other way. It'll probably be hard to do that with a 2 yr old, but you can teach her and talk to her and show her how ti express herself.
Okay, you can obviously tell I stuggle with those things.
You're a great mom, really you are! She will learn. Have faith.
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